Hi. It's Me. I'm the Problem, it's Me!
Nov 09, 2022Itâs happening. That time of year where I get the invite to the Google doc where we sign up for what weâre bringing for Thanksgiving dinner. While I am abundantly grateful for those of you who have the ability to cook, I do not belong to your club. Hi. It's Me. I'm the problem, it's me. I'm Phoebe Buffay from Friendsâthey ask me to bring the cups and iceâcrushed, cubed, and dry! LOL!
Perhaps Iâm exaggerating a bit here. They do allow me to bring things that I can simply warm upâŠlike the rolls. One year for a big event, my son requested macaroni and cheese. So, I bought like 10 tubs of Bob Evanâs Mac and Cheese. Bobâs big around our house. I dumped them all in a huge pan, seasoned with salt and pepper, topped with cheddar cheese, and popped it in the oven for 25 minutes. Everyone loved it!
In fact, my neighbor loved it so much she asked for the recipe. When I told her the truth, she copied it exactly and made it the next time her family came over to visit. When they asked her for the recipe, she just said, âOh, I got it the recipe from my neighborâ. True story. The point here is that weâre all gifted differently. Even Einstein once said, âEverybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.â So, Iâm a fish that canât climb trees! And you likely are too if you believe in sonder. The point with the Google doc, whose bringing what to Thanksgiving, and the cups and the ice is this: Thanksgiving. Weâre all trying to create a holiday that might even be a core memory or at least memorable.
Why else do we take pictures of every birthday cake weâve ever had? Do you actually remember what that cake tasted like? No. But you remember who was there, who was singing, and how those people gathered around you made you feel that day. Thanks for giving!
As we approach this holiday in America, itâs typically a time when nonprofits think about the gratitude they have for their donors. And clearly there are left brain marketing methods and right brain marketing moxie that should be considered to do this well.
Left Brain Marketing Methods: Left brain is all about data and logic and quality decision making. So, how do you thank your donors with this in mind? Iâve got a couple of ideas.
Right Brain Marketing Moxie: Right brain is all about creativity and stories and bringing out an emotion in the recipient. Itâs done all the timeâjust donât thask (thank and ask).
Let's get on that thankful train!
Left Brain Marketing Moxie: I was at the Annual National Conference for Growing Community Foundations in Kansas last month and sat with a group of nonprofit marketers at one of their evening receptions. One of the attendees asked me how we go about thanking donors without spending a lot of money.
Itâs a great question because one thing the left brain is really good at is monitoring that marketing line item in the budget, right? The thing is, you have two battles youâre fighting when thinking about thanking donors: (1) you have a budget, likely a small one and (2) you donât want your donors to think that youâve spend too much money. Afterall if you have all that money to spend, why should they donate, right? Itâs a fine line to balance.
First and foremost, even if you segment your donors, you donât have to thank them all in the same way. Perhaps you Top 50 Donors are thanked in a much different way than your Top 50 Prospects. If you arenât at the place where you segment your donors yet, thatâs okâjust pull a report from your database and make data-driven decisions about who to thank and how.
For those that you want to give a special thanks to, think about how to do that in a way that is both special and frugal. For example, Indiana is known for our Sugar Cream Pies. Holly, if youâre reading thisâand I know you areâyou likely donât know what a Sugar Cream Pie is since itâs not a Texas thingâjust trust me theyâre to die for and a great Thanksgiving delight! In fact, Iâd even be able to bring one to Thanksgiving since itâs basically heat and eat. As long as I donât bring the fancy gold-laden paper plates from Hobby Lobby againâthe gold in those plates will catch on fire in the microwave. But I digress.
Anyway, since Sugar Cream Pie is Indianaâs state pie, theyâre not only readily available here, but there is a Wick's bakery nearby that bakes them by the thousands. So, the gift of a Wick's Hoosier Sugar Cream Pie delivered to the door of a donor the week of Thanksgiving would be readily appreciated--special and frugal.
We also have a local charity that makes homemade cheeseballs as their major fundraiser of the year. I have a feeling that the women in this charity must promise theyâll go to their graves with the recipe because people buy dozens of them just to freeze and enjoy all season long. So, yes, a lovely gift of cheese and crackers shows that we support other local charities while still expressing our undying gratitudeâspecial and frugal.
Put your mind to work and think about what your bottom line can afford and what your donors would appreciate without thinking youâve gone bougie. Itâs a fine line, but you and your left brain can do it!
Right Brain Marketing Moxie: I hate a thask almost more than any other donor marketing piece. Iâve personally received many of them and will likely get several more in the next few weeks. They all start out looking like they are thanking me as a donor but ultimately there is an ask in there somewhere.
You know how kids are when they are little and they want something, a cookie or money for gas? They start out by saying how pretty you are or how much they love youâthe thanks. But you know whatâs coming next because they always want somethingâthe ask. And that little marriage right there is where the thask was born.
So, no, letâs pledge to each other right now that we wonât be guilty of thasking this month. Donât do it. Just say no. Then, put your noggins together to think about how you genuinely want to thank you donors. Thank themâŠnothing more, nothing less.
Penelope Burke, in her book Donor Centered Fundraising, shows data she collected depicting how donors love a phone call. Just a quick call to say thanks! Crazily, her data also reveals that it doesnât even matter if the donor doesnât answer, that a message expressing your gratitude without even leaving a number to return the call will be equally valuable. So, call some donors! Itâs free!
Perhaps youâll call a subset of donors or maybe youâll schedule a full-scale Thank-a-thon where you, your team, and your Board all call your donors just to say thanks for giving.
While in Kansas, I also re-met a friend who had seen a presentation of mine nearly 8 years ago. Paula heard me talking about thanking donors and avoiding the thask. So, what did Paula do? That very night, she skipped the conference field trip, put on some sweats, and stayed in her hotel room writing emails to her donors. I know this because I saw Paula at the airport as we were both flying back to our respective destinations. She excitedly told me what she had done the night before. In fact, she pulled out her laptop and read me the email she sent. Short, sweet, and filled with abundant gratitude. Then, she was beaming with a gratitude of her very own when she shared with me some of the responses she had received. Wow! Just wow!
Sure, there is a lot of creativity that goes into your direct mail pieces. But sometimes creativity can come in the form of a phone call or an email, or even a handwritten letterâwho gets those these days?
Whatâs important here is that youâre thanking them for givingâthanksgiving. And if you donât thask and try to think of something youâd like the donor to do for you, you might even create a core memory or at least a good memory. Maybe even one they'd tell their friends and family about on Thanksgiving!
And isnât that what generosity is all about? The joy of giving! Itâs amazing that it happens. Itâs amazing to know the most philanthropic people in your community. And itâs amazing that we get to be just a small part of the process.
Sure, not all your donors will donate their estate, just like not all your Thanksgiving attendees can make homemade mac and cheese. Meet them where they are, be thankful for their spirit of generosity, and tell them why youâve chosen this nonprofit career of choice.
After all, youâre talented. You could be doing darn-near anything. Yet youâve chosen to make your corner of the world a better place through the power of generosity. And, for that, my friend, I am abundantly gratefulâthanks for giving.
All My Best,
Dawn
dawn@dawnbrown.com
dawn brown creative, llc.
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